tooth less wisdom

My son finally lost his first tooth.
He is 6 years 11 months old!!

all his friends lost a lot of teeth and got them back too.

he is so sad and worried, drinking a lot of milk to grow fast so he could catch up with his friends, checking his teeth every minute in case they started wiggle.

finally a week ago the bottom tooth started wiggling and boy! he celebrated like crazy, running around the house and announcing the news to everyone!

yesterday brushing his teeth suddenly it fell in to sink, Yeh!

he lost a tooth!!!!

He said amma, if you wait and wait and wait things happen, see i lost my tooth eventually! 

i am like no wonder people say "listen to the wisdom of toothless ones".














text by ME

if i know .....

......about this earlier I wouldn't be so hard on myself being so perfectionist and make myself and my life so miserable in believing what i believed, "thinking about just me is selfish" that i used to say to myself, others approval is most important than my feelings, even though i am dying inside i have a tendency that i have to keep others safe, what an illusion i used to have! or what if i talk honestly and others think i am an arrogant or i used to be afraid that, what if they reject me!!
 the classic thing is friends and family tells the story of your life like they know you very well and you listen them like "when did i sell my life story to them and when did they decide to edit completely how ever and what ever they please"?
recently what i learned is, Any incident left you feeling bad, that incident is trying to teach you something and you have to ask yourself "what am i going to loose now" or "what am i trying to convince me right now to please or make others superior than me" and "what am i learning"?

book cover and badges are from Brene' brown's blog page
text written by ME

village girl at heart!

As soon as we bought the house I started looking for paintings close to my village roots and i found an artist who painted them flawlessly and fell in love with them. In the beginning when i saw the photos online i thought they are photos literally, but those are actually oil paintings and I was speechless by the details of the paintings.

Artist is S. Elayaraja and collection is Dravidian woman.

it's in my shopping wish list now!!

Each picture in the below bought the fond memories of my life in the village of my paternal grandma and the time i spend helping and doing chores along with her in the holidays.

The stages i went through from innocent child to adult married woman while i was there is still fresh in heart, and a big part of me for ever i guess.
If an artist can send you to memories and kept you there wondering around for a while with triggering emotions that artist is truly amazing and worth to talk about.
He is speaking your language through his art and the conversations are going on and on ......










photos are from Artist's site
text by ME

poem to stranger self

Love After Love
by Derek Walcott

The time will come
When, with elation,
You will greet yourself arriving
At your own door, in your own mirror,
And each will smile at the other’s welcome,

And say, sit here, Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
To itself, to the stranger who has loved you

All your life, when you ignored
For another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

The photographs, the desperate notes,
Peel your image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

girls Hair do

My daughter got super busy now a days.

Morning at 6:40 is the bus and i pick her up at 7:30 at night from tennis matches, home work until 10:30 average, taking bath and read a little of her favorite up to date book and 0ff to bed, and starts all over again in the morning.


i am missing her terribly, one day i felt she is living with us but she is not visible and i don't want to confuse her with my emotions  but spend quality time with her. 
kids schedules change year after year and parents must change along with them and figure it out what is best for both sides to spend time together, obviously as an adult it's parents fault if they don't figure it out not the kids.
meanwhile i stumble upon Mindy who is a mom of 5 girls and she put her hair styling talent in YouTube and i just fell in love of those hair styles and ask my daughter if i can fix her hair in the morning that little time with her is more than enough for me to interact with her.
slowing down a little and enjoy simple pleasures in life.
My daughter is a very understanding girl and said, why not! 





I am ready with my kit, i am not wasting my time running for bobby pin or hair band or spray, that creates stress rather than quality time so i am well prepared for morning hair do.
i watch the video night before ready with new style just to impress my soon to be 14 year old daughter.

 Mindy's videos are very practical because she is a mom too! and these styles doesn't take more than 5 minutes, 
and bonding with your daughter is priceless! 

A mother's treasure is her daughter.  ~Catherine Pulsifer

text by me
hair style videos are from youtube

difficult thing to achieve

There is no thought or situation that you can’t put up against inquiry. Every thought, every person, every apparent problem is here for the sake of your freedom.

Byron Katie

Break free out of your mold!!!

freedom sculpture

by Zenos Frudakis 

how true and beautiful is that

I am on the 2nd stage by the way...
that stage is having the awareness that i am stuck and making room to loosen up little and try to move to the next level. This sculpture gives the visual idea that if i try more, push myself more, keep on trying, live my life fullest every minute of it...one day i am going to be as free as that guy!
it is difficult thing to achieve.

What is the seal of attained freedom? -No longer being ashamed in front of oneself.

~ Friedrich Nietzsche

iSad, iInspired

perfect logo design to tribute Steve 
Jonathan mak did it spotless